Friday, February 14, 2014
The initial bonding has grown stronger each day and the love he shares with us and our other dogs is incredible to witness as well as our love for him. That brings me to the topic and the wisdom I have gained from Echo and our other rescue dogs over the years. When you reach out to a rescue dog and bond you are receiving far more than you could ever give or expect from the union. The bonding process is really important regardless of the species. Loving someone or something takes something special from within you and takes you outside yourself. Giving love when you don't know if you will receive love in return is risky but guaranteed when you extend that love to a rescue animal. So rescuing a pet is a very special act that tells a lot about a person.
More specifically I have noticed over my lifetime that those people happiest are the ones who can extend love and expect nothing in return. I have noticed many things about doing this and reaching out to another person or pet. Some buy a puppy from a breeder or pet store. Everyone loves a puppy as they are cute. But then when the puppy gets bigger or grows up and is no longer is as cute they no longer care for the dog. Their need initially was for and about themselves and had nothing to do with the welfare of the pet. I have also observed that those who do not have pets, when they easily could, redirect that love to themselves or something like a possession which is incapable of loving them back. In our community I have noted that those who do not have pets to give their love or concern to are for the most part unhappy people who substitute the giving and receiving love to causing trouble, bullying or trying to hurt or damage others. Usually those who actually can extend love outside themselves and whom they consider weak. They totally lack understanding why you may love your pets and either use your love to manipulate you or try to harm your pets. Some people are allergic to dogs or cats and can't have pets. This exempts them from my general observations.
Initially I was angry at these mean spirited people but have come to feel rather sorry for them. The only ones they have to love them back is usually themselves. I have also noted that many of these people attend one of our local churches seeking love and are able to talk the talk but do not seem to find what they are looking for and remain unhappy or pretend they are happy. I have also noted that some of these people do not possess the capacity to actually love anyone but themselves and prefer their self love. They are people who only have themselves to give them back the comfort they desire.
I therefore believe that adopting a pet is actually an act that reveals much of your character and capacity for love. Providing of course that you are doing it with the right motives and not self centered ones. I'm sure that some would disagree with these observations but these are my observations and I have found them mostly accurate. When people say that they trust their dogs instincts about other people I consider that a pretty accurate saying. Our dogs have rarely been wrong in their judgement even when Carol or I have been fooled. How you treat your pets and how they relate to you says a lot about a persons character in my opinion.
The above photo was borrowed from face book and depicts the special and unique bond between a girl and her horse. When you bond with another I believe you are required to reach outside yourself and risk potential rejection but still love and let it overcome any deficiency. So who really is the weak one? The self indulgent person or the person who risks and loves beyond themselves?